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Ask Amy: Receptionist wants some co-worker courtesy | Advice

Dear Amy: I am a receptionist.

I love my job, and my co-workers are great.

However, there is one thing that bothers me.

My office is in a common area where the mailboxes are, and my colleagues often talk around my desk.

Some of them talk about the parties they are going to, to which you are not invited.

I don’t expect to be invited to all parties – some are “team building parties”, so of course I won’t be invited to other team meetings.

Sometimes we all go out to lunch and meet occasionally after work, which is nice.

But with the holiday season, they’re talking about a party you’re not invited to, and it’s definitely a “friends from work” party — not a team-building party.

I think it’s rude to talk about parties in front of uninvited people.

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How do I “politely” tell them to stop talking about these gatherings in front of me? It is as if I am invisible to them! – uninvited

Dear Uninvited: I agree that it is rude to discuss a private meeting in front of someone who was not invited. I think this is a basic rule most of us learned in elementary school, yet we seem to forget later in life.

Colleagues should not talk about work at an office party nor should they talk about partying at work.

Friendships form at work, and work friends have every right to enjoy their relationships and meet outside the office.

Discussing these gatherings in front of others is a familiar complaint to supervisors and HR departments. If you have a supervisor you can talk to, you might ask them to kindly remind your colleagues that your workstation is public and that they shouldn’t enjoy private conversations there.

Depending on how well you know these co-workers, you can also handle this yourself — in a playful way, by saying a version of: “Hellooooo, I’m sitting here.”

Dear Amy: My 6-year-old granddaughter has not been vaccinated because both parents have opposing views, even though they have been fully vaccinated.

I calmly expressed my opinion by explaining why she needed to be vaccinated.

I say “quietly”, but inside me I’m very upset and worried.

Are there any strategies to get a parent to consent to vaccinating a child, or should I stay away from it? – worry love

Dear Gram: In November, I published a heartbreaking report on a previous pandemic, outlining the dire risks of transmission of some viruses, as well as the miracle of vaccination. I’m reprinting it here:

My mother died in 1957 in the Asian flu pandemic. I contracted the virus at school (I was in kindergarten) and passed it on to her.

We lived in Aurora, Ohio.

My teacher didn’t know that there was at least one student in her class who had passed it on to me, and possibly other students. Nobody was masked.

I remember being quite ill, and I remember my shock and grief as a five-year-old on the morning my mother died.

The discovery of this disease at school caused mortal havoc in our home and haunted me for the rest of my life.

I am 69 years old now, and losing my mother definitely changed the lives of my sister and our father.

The COVID-19 pandemic has brought back many memories, and I am a staunch advocate of precautions, including masks and vaccines.

Please continue to emphasize masks and vaccinations in your column.

Signed: Reverend Dr. Kay Palmer Marsh”

It is hard to understand why these parents would choose protection for themselves, but not for their children.

The good news for you — and your family — is that you and the child’s parents are vaccinated (and hopefully boosted) and thus protected from the worst outcomes of the disease, if your granddaughter brings the virus home.

However, you have already submitted your case to them.

Stay calm, try not to worry, and if they bring up this issue, urge them to follow the advice of their child’s pediatrician and the CDC.

Dear Amy: In response to the heartbreaking letter from “Gutted in Illinois,” who had just gone through a very painful birth, only to be refused help by her mother-in-law, she did not suggest her husband should come forward.

I would encourage anyone else in this situation to invite family members/spouse to help out with the showdowns and chores! – I was there

Honey I was there: “Gutted” didn’t mention a pair, and I kept wondering if he was at the scene.

You can contact Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com. Readers can mail to Ask Amy, PO Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or “like” her on Facebook.

You can contact Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com. Readers can mail to Ask Amy, PO Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or “like” her on Facebook.


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